Mom's condition
Chuck Wolfram      Tue, Feb 4, 2014 at 4:25 AM
To: Marie Grace
Dear Marie,

I hope everything is fine with you.
A week ago Saturday night Mom fell twice, once when leaving the bathroom and the second time in the dinning room between the table and the china cabinet. I called a Hospice nurse to help me put Mom to bed---she did not think anything was really amiss. Mom was not using her walker as a walker but as a wheelchair---at least after that. She became weaker and I started to become reconciled that a nursing home might be inevitable. On last Saturday she did NOT fall but rather slumped into the walker chair and missed it when leaving the bathroom. At her request I called hospice---the nurse came quickly (the one who came lives in Pleasantville).

The nurse advised that Mom go to the emergency room of Shore Memorial, and she called the paramedics. She arrived there at 7 pm. I left for home about 9 pm and they were *shortly* going to give her own room. They told me that night she had an infection---which they are now treating. On Sunday I was told the x-rays reveal a broken shoulder. I would be very surprised if she ever comes home again. I had an unpleasant telephone conversation with an hospice nurse earlier this morning (Monday) who was a conduit with the hospital. After that conversation the realization that admitting Mom to Meadowview, which is our preference, simply might not happen. Put simply I hate all the choices I'm being presented with.

Pray for us, and especially for Mom. We need it. This is not good.

Love, Chuck
Wed, Feb 5, 2014, 4:51 PM
to me
Why are you still awake at 3 o'clock in the morning? the time of your e-mails was in the wee early hours!!!! What did they do for your mom's shoulder? Did she need surgery on it or did they just put it in a sling? My mom broke her shoulder in 4 places and they just put it in a sling and it did heal and she regained full use of it which surprised me. Of course she had therapy for a while too. Anything new to report? Sorry I misread about the nursing home. Marie
Chuck Wolfram
Wed, Feb 5, 2014, 10:09 PM
to Marie

I will probably be signing the papers tomorrow to readmit Mom to hospice. I advise that if you want to see my mother again you come now, at once. When I saw her yesterday she slept most of the time I was there but she did speak to me, especially right before I left. It did feel as if she was saying goodbye. I was there for almost four and a half hours today, and she slept the entire time. Her condition is getting worse, not better. They have been fighting the inflection she had when admitted and sepsis is not improving. I've been told it won't be long. They can discharge her to home or to Meadowview and be on hospice. Or remain at the hospital. Mom said more than once she did not want me responsible for her care at the end.

Love, Chuck